PARTY RULES

HEADS KNOW aims to be a safe space for women, queer and trans folk, disabled people, people of color, and individuals of other marginalized groups. We don’t tolerate harassment, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, racism, ableism, or discrimination of any kind.

We’re here to build community — but that comes with trust. This means consent isn’t just sexy, it’s necessary. Without a yes, it’s a no. Respect people’s space and refrain from leering, touching, and following without permission. Not sure if something’s okay? Just ask!

Unacceptable behavior may result in removal from the party. If you notice or experience it, let Arielle or the venue staff know right away.

Other things that will make the night better for all of us:

Trust the DJ. The lineup was carefully curated with intention. No requests.

Wear earplugs. Ear production is recommended for prolonged sound exposure above 85 decibels to avoid hearing loss—music at clubs can go upwards of 100 dBA or more. Ask the bar for earplugs if you didn’t bring any.

Be respectful to the staff. It’s not easy to work late, long hours. They’re just doing their jobs to keep you safe while you have fun.

Tip your bartender. They’re working hard to keep you hydrated all night long.

Use the dancefloor for dancing. Try keeping the conversations and phone usage to a minimum, and even try facing away from the DJ booth. The dancefloor is sacred, communal grounds meant to provide a space for us to connect with the music and each other. (Again: If you don’t know anyone, be sure to introduce yourself and ask to join in before invading someone’s space.)

POLICIES

Safety

Free water, earplugs, and fentanyl strips will be available at our events.

All official team members have been trained for sexual violence prevention by OutSmart NYC.

How we respond to sexual violence: We take your lead in how you want the situation handled. As a general rule, if somebody is an immediate threat to the safety of other patrons, they will be removed, but we will always check in with the harmed party first to ensure that their safety and choices are prioritized. 

Inclusion

We have signed the DJs Against Apartheid statement in solidarity with Palestine.

Our lineups will include at least 50 percent women, BIPOC, queer, trans, or disabled artists.

Partnerships

The venues, promoters, and brands we collaborate with have agreed to comply with our party rules for the event. We try our best to work with those who we feel best align with our mission and policies.

Accountability

We’re always learning. If our actions don’t line up with our words, please provide respectful feedback to Arielle at a@headsknow.party and we’ll do our best to acknowledge, respond, and make things right.

RESOURCES

… for everyone

… for sexual violence survivors

… for nightlife workers